Life & Stuff · Mental Health

15 Things I Learned in 2018

  1. I can be happy when I buy (and own) fewer clothes! This is my lowest clothing haul year ever!

  2. I can produce consistent, interesting content, but I still have a lot of growing to do and that’s OK.

  3. I can be ME and the right people will come my way and love me for it. I may not be the smartest person, or most interesting, or fittest, or strongest, or prettiest, but my god do I have a lot to offer and I’m awesome just as I am.

  4. Self-development and the “growth mindset” is good…but to a point. Don’t let focusing on growing become overwhelming or put you in a place of lack.

  5. To be more succinct with my writing and storytelling.

  6. As long as you’re self-aware, you will be fine in life and get your success.

  7. You may never be ready to do what you want to do, so just do it and find your feet as you go. I did this with self-employment, the books I wrote, and my podcast this year.

  8. Not everything is as it seems; don’t be quick to judge or assume something about a situation or a person.

  9. Sometimes the only person holding you back or making your life (or even just your day) bad is you.

  10. You’re not behind in life. There are plenty of people who look at your life from afar and want what you have. Appreciate where you are now as you work for what you want in the future.

  11. Don’t take things too personally. I’m an empath and a highly sensitive person, but I need to learn to detach from this mindset/reaction to things at times for my own good.

  12. It’s 1000% fine to do something that you enjoy for the simple reason that you enjoy it. I never need to justify this to anyone else.

  13. Anyone who gets at you, judges you, speak about you behind your back, or decides something about you with little evidence or without consulting you first is someone you don’t need to worry about. As long as you know your truth and your intentions, that’s all that matters.

  14. I will always encounter people with different opinions and life experiences to my own. Accept this, love them anyway, or move on. Don’t let it poison how I feel and what I believe.

  15. When in doubt; when you’re having a bad day or a low-mood day, do one of the three following things: READ, WALK, OR WRITE. It’s OK to have a slow day or a low day, but it’s not OK to waste a whole day in that place. Reading heals.

Bonus!

*STOP LETTING OTHER PEOPLE RULE YOUR LIFE! We all let people rule our lives too much in various ways, like:

  • Comparing ourselves to others and getting sad or angry about it
  • Doing what others say we should do
  • Taking people’s “advice” or opinions too seriously
  • Getting upset about people who don’t matter
  • Wasting time judging others
  • Avoiding people
  • Being codependent or overly dependent on others
  • Looking for approval and validation from others
  • Reaching for likes and comments and shares on social media
  • Following the latest fashions and trends
  • And so-much-more that it’s scary…

There is so much more, and more specific things, that I learned this year, but I wanted to share the more generic ones with you to pass on the advice from my experiences. It has been a really…weird year, but a pivotal one; a challenging one. I thank this year for all that it taught me, all who were there by my side, and I welcome all that is yet to come.

What did you learn in 2018?

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