In keeping with the theme of the Undoing Series with the Control, Compete, Create culture cycle I think a lot of us are stuck in, I wanted to pop in with a calmer post with just some quotes, inspo, and messages from me which I feel are anti-perfectionist and a good reality reminder!
Here they are… (read as needed)
You actually have a lifetime to read those classic books. It’s okay to read your fantasy or cheesy romances for now, if that’s what calls to you.
There’s always someone who’s better than you at something. Even at the thing you value most. Always. So stop competing; there’s no point.
Other people aren’t your competition. Your fears are.
Whatever the question, your values are the answer. Know them, keep them close, make decisions with them in mind.
Practice mindfulness and awareness by being aware of where you are right now and how you feel. Be here.
There actually is no race or timeline or deadline. They’re all made up in our heads.
People really don’t care about what you do as much as you think they do.
There’s always a new thing to steal people’s attention, they won’t remember that thing you said or that mistake you made as much as you will. Let it go.
“Do the best you can until you know better. When you know better, do better.” – Maya Angelou
Doing your best will look different everyday.
Help others. Celebrate others. Do so, and it will come back to you.
“Sell your cleverness and buy bewilderment.” – Rumi
Allow yourself to be the beginner and learn through doing.
How often do you berate people for their mistakes and missteps? Right, so why would others do the same to you?
Embrace, value and seek ENOUGH. Allow your work to be enough. Your productivity to be enough. Your love, your money, your words, your self, your life.
You are not a robot. You are not expected to run yourself into the ground to please others or get to some imagined destination. Take breaks. Look after yourself. Love the journey.
There is more to life than being the best at something!
Write shoddy poetry. Do a shoddy workout. Make a shoddy joke! It’s freeing!
What’s the worse, truly, that would happen if you didn’t get the best grade, the gold medal, the “you’re the best” statement from someone? There’s always next time. And actually, it doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of things.
Ask yourself, will this matter in 5 years? No? Then try not to spend over 5 minutes thinking about it!