The well-organised, prepared, and fully focused individual is more confident in themselves and what they can achieve. The downtrodden and broken-spirited person doesn’t feel strong, in control, or confident.
Overwhelm and stress can be demons that jump on top of you and make you feel powerless. This feeling leads to low confidence and poor self-worth.
Mental Health and Emotional Health
It’s important to manage stress in order to maintain good mental and emotional health. Stress is a normal part of life and can be good for us, but too much stress or not handling it well can make us ill.
Knowing why you feel stressed is important.
Is it because you’re doing what you don’t want to be doing? Is it outside pressures? Not enough help or resources? Overwhelmed with too much to juggle and not enough time? Are your expectations of yourself or perfectionism causing you to feel stressed out due to impossible standards?
Spot the signs of being overstressed and deal with it head-on. Don’t hide, ignore, or deny the problem; fix it.
Here are some signs of high levels of stress:
- Sleeplessness or oversleeping
- Low appetite or emotional/ stress eating
- Muscle pain and tension
- Sore eyes
- Rapid heart rate
- Sweating excessively
- Hair loss
- Gnawing teeth or biting nails
- Spontaneous outbursts, irritability, crying, or anger (emotional instability)
Here’s how to manage stress better in order to feel more confident in yourself and what you’re doing.
Some people try to do it all, but the fact is, we’re all human. We have our limits. Trying to do everything yourself is a fast-track to overwhelm, stress and burn out. Instead, delegate tasks to other people and get help.
Ask your partner to do the chores or ask a colleague to pick up on some of the project’s tasks. Speak with your boss about how much is on your plate and explain that it’s making you stressed. Take some time off if you need to.
Give yourself a break!
Confident people aren’t ashamed of saying, “I need help with this.“
Say no when you need it. Confident people don’t people-please just because they’re afraid of letting people down or being disliked. Stressing yourself out for other people all the time is not healthy. It’s good to try to help if you can, but if you can’t, your loved ones and friends should understand that.
Respect yourself, your health, and your time by saying no when you want or need to.
What you love
Doing more of what you love, what feels good, helps you to destress and maintain balance in all areas of your life. We all need to work jobs, and sometimes that involves stress or doing things you don’t particularly want to do, and that’s OK. But allowing that to take over your life is not good.
Make time for the things you love and enjoy. Even if it’s only a short amount of time, taking a moment to indulge in pleasures and play is important for balance, health, and happiness.
What do you love? How often do you do it? Make time for it in your schedule; there will be a small pocket of time, you just have to find it and use it wisely.
In order to reduce stress levels and feel more confident in your abilities, you need to learn to trust more (video coming in week five).
Trust that you got this. Trust that everything will work out one way or another. Trust in a higher power. Trust in your support system. Trust that things can be done at a later date!
Trust, it’s an exceptional thing that gives us power, strength, courage, perspective, and wellness.
And the most important thing for reducing or avoiding high stress levels is to be more organised. Organise, prioritise, prepare for work, home life, and the self.
When you are organised, you have more faith in your ability to get things done. You know how to make things work. You’re prepared each day.
- Get a calendar, diary, journal, app
- Take notes and set reminders
- Get into a routine: wake at this time, do this before work, do this at work, do this after work etc.
- Get folders, storage units, boxes for organising your space (it helps clear the mind)
- Try to know how long it takes to do things and be logical with your timeslots and time management
Prioritise tasks that are most important. Schedule time to breathe.
Adulting 101 means knowing (at least roughly) what needs to happen in your day so that you stay on top of things, feel less overwhelmed, less stressed, healthier and happier and thus feeling more confident!
Today’s challenge, should you choose to accept it, is to repeat the phrase “BUT I’VE GOT THIS” anytime you complain, get stressed or worried. Trust that yes things might be hard, but you’ve got this!
This week’s worksheet to complete: Confidence Challenge Week Five Worksheet
Checklist for the whole challenge: Confidence Challenge Checklist