There’s a plethora of advice out there for people who are stuck in a rut, who don’t know what they want to do with their lives, or haven’t found their passion yet.
But where’s the advice for someone like me? Someone who knows, and has always known, who they want to be and what they want to do?
I know what you’re thinking, it’s because it’s very simple: just do that thing!
But what if that thing isn’t an easy thing to do?
If I’d always wanted to be a teacher then that would be different. We all pretty much know what it takes to become a teacher; there’s a blueprint for that career path. You tick off the boxes, get the qualifications and boom, you’re a qualified teacher. All you need to do then is get a job in a school.
But what if you want to be an author? What if that’s the only thing that has been consistent in your life, makes you happy, and all of your skills are in that area? What do I do then?
There’s many other dreams and goals like this, not just those who want to be an author. People who know what they want but the getting it isn’t quite so simple.
There’s no blueprint, qualification, and milestones that say, “yes, upon completion of these things, you will be a successful author!”
It’s not about just writing a good book. Plenty of writers have written great books that haven’t made it to the shelf or aren’t selling well.
So, where’s the advice on what I should do in the meantime? In the time where I’m striving for this dream and goal?
There’s only one piece of advice that is ever given to these kinds of goals: never give up, be consistent, keep going no matter what.
But how? How when I’m broke? When I’m lost and doubting? When I’ve been doing it for years and years with little change or successes? When do you quit? What do you do in the meantime that’s not going to completely suck out your soul?
What, just preserve? Just keep going no matter what? That’s not enough. That’s not comforting.
I consider myself to be a resilient person, but even I grow tired of the constant striving.
Just like everyone else, I need to make a living while “chasing this dream,” and that living is hard to accept, hard to waste time doing, and hard to find in the first place.
I think I just wanted to share my woes about how it feels to chase your dream. Those of you who don’t know what you want to do with your life, remember that you’re not necessarily worse off compared to those of us who do know.
Know that chasing the dream is bloody hard. Hard on a daily basis. I’m lucky to still be young, but many others are older than me with more weight on their shoulders while doing it.
To those people, I say, I see you. You’re strong. You’re admirable. You’re not a failure, a loser, or behind in life. And I hope to all the gods that you finally don’t have to chase anymore at some point soon.
My legs are tired from running this race.
Here’s some advice for chasing the dream:
- If it’s something you can’t go a day without thinking about, then yes, you must persevere with it.
- Make time to look after yourself. Don’t push yourself to the edge. A healthy body and mind will produce better results than an ill one.
- Get advice, mentors, and teachers who are people who actually know what they’re talking about and have been there. Don’t listen to the noise from anyone else.
- Make time for living life and enjoying it. Life shouldn’t be all about work and dream chasing and no play. Yes, work hard and show the universe that you want this, but not at the expense of decades lost being too busy for fun, love and laughter.
- Have your support system in place. You are going to need support, real emotional-support, over and over again on this path.
- Surround yourself with like-minded people, and those on the same path or who appreciate and understand the path. It helps you stay motivated.
- Try not to allow mistakes and pitfalls to raise an alarm in your mind meaning you should give up. Every successful person has gone through hard times and times when it looked like they should have quit.
- Don’t wait for motivation or inspiration, make it happen. Inspire yourself actively, know yourself and how you work, and be disciplined.
- Time management and balance are the key to “having it all” but know that perfection is impossible. Things will slip and slide, don’t be afraid to readjust when necessary.
Good luck, I’m rooting for you.
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