Yes, I am writing this post as a socially anxious introvert, and so time alone is sort of my forte! Butttttt, I think that everyone can and should enjoy the time that the spend alone. Here’s why…
First of all, it’s healthy to spend time alone. Obviously, we’re all in different positions in life. Some of us are in relationships, some not. Some living with others, some living alone. Some with kids, some without. Some who work alone, some who work in busy work environments. But whatever the situation, it’s healthy to spend time alone because you want to.
There is, as I’m sure you can imagine, a difference between being alone because you want to, and being alone because you have to be. Actively choosing to spend time alone is important for our sense of self. It’s important for knowing who we are. It’s important for growing strong and developing a trust within ourselves. All of which helps us to feel a healthier sense of self.
- Improve self esteem
- Improve self awareness
- Improve self trust
- Improve your relationships as a result
Get to know yourself
As I said, being alone is important to getting to know ourselves. We can’t truly know who we are, what we’re good at, and what we want without that quiet time away from the crowds in order to figure that out.
As social beings, we are all susceptible to conformity, this act of following the majority, basically. But when you’re alone, you get to choose by and for yourself. You get to understand yourself and your own voice a lot better without the noise of the masses overpowering it.
Feel detached from yourself lately? Maybe you need some alone time.
When you know yourself well, and you trust yourself, and you feel a healthy sense of self, you are more likely to grow. To choose to grow, actively. To know what needs to be done to improve. It’s all about self-awareness. It’s all about going at life with this strength within because you’ve taken that time to know yourself and develop that important relationship overtime.
Put yourself first
Spending time alone means you get to put yourself first without anyone else playing a role. And over time, you begin to choose yourself even when others are around, because you have this sense of self that is so solid that you know what you need and what you value and you don’t deprive yourself of that need.
When you travel or go out alone, you get to decide what you do, what you eat, where you go, and so on. You can be the sole decider and that’s so fun!
Things to do and enjoy alone
- Watch a film (at home or at the cinema)
- Play video games
- Dance and sing
- Paint or draw
- Learn a language
- Go for coffee
- Go for lunch or dinner
- Outfit try-on session and hairstyle play
- Work out
- Cook and bake
- Pamper yourself
- Go for a walk
- Clean and tidy (decluttering and donating too)
- Binge-watch favourite Tv shows
- Build a fort and watch something spooky