This book wasn’t very unique, or life-changing (as the title says) to me, but I loved it all the same. It kind of felt like a long blog post, but I love blog posts that inspire thought and get you thinking about changing your life, which this book did for me.
Here are some thoughts that the book inspired:
- It’s OK to reserve your energy for important things (things that are important to you, your way of life, or the people you truly love and care about).
- It’s OK to prioritise, and it’s OK if other people aren’t happy with your priorities.
- People-pleasing and caring what people think is at the root of all our wasted f*cks and energy, so cut it out.
- Your life will work so much better if you stop doing random crap for others that brings you no joy or fulfillment.
- It’s OK not to give to people who wouldn’t do the same, people you don’t know, or people who are just takers.
- It’s OK to only do what aligns with who you are and what you want instead of giving energy (and sometimes time and money, too) to things that you don’t like, upset you, bother you, or aren’t YOU.
- If you don’t care about makeup and fashion; if you don’t care about the latest celebrities; if you don’t care about classical literature; if you don’t care about the latest games or films; whatever it is, if you don’t care about it, that’s OK! Stop giving those f*cks or pretending to; do you, it’s easier and it feels so good!
This is an oversimplification of what the book represents and what I took from it, but giving less f*cks, or as I like to put it, “giving away less of your energy” to non-important things is truly liberating. You will find that it will free up your time for what matters, making your life not only run better, but give you time for manifesting your dreams (for example) which is much better than going to your friend of a friend’s graduation party when you hate parties and don’t know anyone.
These things also help with your mental health, as it’s stressful and exhausting trying to bend over backward to fit in, or please people, or help everyone out. I’m sorry (well, I’m not, as the book says) but it’s not your job to fix or run other people’s lives. It doesn’t make you an arsehole for trying to reserve time and energy for what’s important to you, so do what you need to do for you and your health and your dreams and your passions. Anyone who tries to prevent that is the arsehole, in my opinion!
I used to try to help everyone, be everyone’s hero, and carry everyone. I used to bend over and do whatever others wanted. Well, no more. I have to reserve my f*cks for bettering me and my life from now on…sorry, not sorry.
If you need any help in bettering your mental health, or better coping with anxiety, depression, and stress, then my book “You’re As Mad As I Am” may be for you. Check it out here, and download a free sample to see what it’s all about.
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