I am going to make a massive generalisation and say that many of us in the Western world are struggling (or have) with perfectionism. This is not a diagnosis or anything, but I think many of us want to (or try to) be perfect and can often take this too far. Have you ever thought… Continue reading Undoing Series: Our Perfectionist Culture
Ever wondered why it is suddenly so popular to talk about self-help, self-development and all the other Self terms? Here's my thoughts on the rise in self-help content.
*Part of the Identity Series* I believe that a lot of our personal struggles in adulthood come from our sense of Identity and Belonging. Why? Because we question who we are and what we're meant to do. These questions tie directly to our sense of Identity, but they also tie into the concept of Belonging...… Continue reading Belonging & Community in Adulthood
I'm a bit lazy I'm hardworking and a trier, this is true. But I'm also lazy. If people ever want to "do things" I often can't be bothered to. This is why I'm unfit. This is why I'm socially inept (among other reasons). I'd just rather stay sat on the sofa or lying in bed.… Continue reading My 5 Life Confessions
Books That book that you will read in a week or a month took years to get to a place that was ready for an agent. Then spent years (at times) with an agent before it got to the publishers. Then years with the publishers before it got to the shelf that got it in… Continue reading Stop Underappreciating Writers!
*This is the first of many long-form mental health articles that I will be posting to my site. If this is not your interest, that's fine; you have been warned!* There seems to be this culture nowadays of "personal development" and "growth mindset" and "self-development". These are ideas that none of us can escape.… Continue reading Is Personal Development Dangerous for Our Mental Health?
What the New Year means to me Not, "New Year, New Me". Not "New Year's Resolutions". Not trying to fix every "bad" thing in your life. Not going 100mph into every goal and dream you've ever had then inevitably burning out. Nope. No. Uh-uh. For me, the New Year means a clean slate. A fresh… Continue reading New Beginnings
I'm sure that any ambitious person out there has heard these phrases: You've got to grind for success. You must hustle hard. Work, work, work! Hustle, hustle, hustle! But are these phrases really what we need to hear when pursuing our goals? Is "hustling" really the best way to achieve success? I think not.… Continue reading Careful with the Grind
I don't think I'm the only one who tells myself stories (and no, not because I'm an author). I mean the stories we tell ourselves about of lives and our Self. They can be labels, ideas, "evidence-based facts" or other, but there's a lot of things that we just accept and believe about our lives… Continue reading Change the Narrative
Yesterday, I finally got to watch The Hate U Give, the new Black Lives Matter film. Earlier this year, I read the book by Angie Thomas and loved it and was moved by it as well. Let's just say that the film had my heart aching in every way. And I truly hope that as… Continue reading Thoughts on “The Hate U Give” Book & Film (Black History Inspired)