*For those who don't know, Allyship or being an "ally" isn't just for the Black Lives Matter movement! We all can and should be allies to other communities, ones we're not a part of. For example, myself as a cisgender female being an ally to the LGBTQ+ community. Or as a Mixed (Black and White)… Continue reading How to be an Ally: What True Long-lasting Allyship Means to Me
Hey, people. How you doing? I hope you’re okay! I've heard that some white people (and white-passing people) are feeling under pressure and are overwhelmed. I've heard that some are afraid to speak and get it wrong. Or some are speaking and they’re getting their heads bitten off! Let me just say, in case I… Continue reading “Wanting to help but scared to speak”
I'm not just talking to white people here. Being an ally is also for other ethnic groups because I, as a Mixed Race (Black Caribbean and White British, Irish) cisgender woman will have no lived experience compared to say an Indian, Hindu man; or a Japanese lesbian; or a Native American Transgender woman etc. etc.… Continue reading Racial Education: Being Uncomfortable, Vulnerability and Allyship
Have you ever been called selfish by someone you care about, and then questioned if it was true? I have. Or at least, I've been made to feel selfish for choosing myself. And this isn't uncommon, which is why I also did a post about guilt not long ago. But I give you permission to… Continue reading You Are Not Selfish: Selfishness V. Self-Care (podcast)
Hey guys, welcome back to the Finding Clarity Series! Today's post is a deep one, an important one, but also one that I can provide a lot less specific advice about because our wounds and our need for healing are all different. Just know, firstly, that your wounds can heal if you stop poking them… Continue reading Finding Clarity: Shame, Wounds, Healing
We need other people in order to do this life thing. Life can be hard at times, but if we let people, they can really help us to get through it. We need all kinds of people for all kinds of things in life. But there's one thing I know for sure, we can't do… Continue reading We Need Other People (Podcast)
What is self-help? What is it really? How does self-help help us? Why is the self-help community so big? Let's discuss...
Growing up, I didn't see many girls who looked like me on the TV. They weren't in the books, on billboards, or in films, either. Thankfully, this is starting to change but it's still not where it needs to be. You see, if you're a child who's not white, it can be hard to grow… Continue reading Why Representation in Media Matters
Here are my thoughts on why we fall victim to disconnection and poor communication and how we can do better to cultivate connection in this complex world of today... Empathy over sympathy Sympathy is "I feel sorry for you," which doesn't take away my pain, or share it, or take away my shame and… Continue reading My Thoughts On Communication and Connection
It can be tough to have different views about life and the world compared to someone else's. We can often fight for a long time when trying to find who's right and who's wrong. But there is only one definite truth: we all see the world differently... Click to play!