For a long time, I was called the "nice one" or people would say, "Siana is just so nice!" and it would upset me. Why? Because I saw nice as a synonym for boring, basic, dull. That I wasn't the funny one, the smart one, the cool one, the pretty one...just the nice one, and… Continue reading Why I Embrace Being Known as the “Nice One” Now
Self-care has become super popular and perhaps that means the word has lost its effect now. But there are so many forms of self-care and what we need person to person, moment to moment will differ. Self-care practices aside, here are some self-care mindsets to remember for a healthier life. For caring for and prioritising… Continue reading 12 Self-Care Mindsets to Remember (podcast)
It is now the third week of lockdown for us in the UK, and so I wanted to do a sort of updated to-do list now that I myself feel a lot less motivated and more anxious as time has gone on.If you're still in a good place, then great. If you want to use… Continue reading Third Week of Lockdown: Things to Do for Self-Care When Unmotivated and Anxious
Whenever I advocate for self-love or acceptance, I don't mean just love and accept yourself as you are and never work for or strive for better. I mean that you should love yourself unconditionally. Let me explain... Unconditional Love looks like Think about someone that you love unconditionally. I'm going to use my mother… Continue reading What It Means to Love Yourself Unconditionally
I think there's a difference between self-improvement and internal work. Self-improvement is improving your: Intellect Productivity Diet Sleep Fitness Communication Routine and habits Work Finances And so on... But then the internal work is more about the heavy stuff. It comes from the Gunk inside of you laced together by trauma, failure, shame, fear, resentment,… Continue reading Self-Improvement: Is It Really What You Need Right Now?
Defence Mechanisms are what do we do to protect ourselves from vulnerability, judgement, pain, fear, and shame, but at the risk of meaningful connections, success, growth, true happiness and freedom. They can become our armour, knowingly or not, that we carry with us out in the world for protection from harm. Let's discuss these further… Continue reading Defence Mechanisms: Our Armour
I am a completely different person compared to who I was 2, 3, 5 years ago. Not because my hair has changed (though it has many times), or my body (though it has), or my achievements and progression (there's been ups and downs). It's because my inside world has grown and taken a new shape.… Continue reading The Importance of Self-Work