For a long time, I was called the "nice one" or people would say, "Siana is just so nice!" and it would upset me. Why? Because I saw nice as a synonym for boring, basic, dull. That I wasn't the funny one, the smart one, the cool one, the pretty one...just the nice one, and… Continue reading Why I Embrace Being Known as the “Nice One” Now
Aside from feeling physically safe, which we all should feel in relationships, I wanted to explore some other ways that we should feel safe with our closest connections. This is what a healthy relationship looks like between two people: they both should feel safe to... Safe to be your true self Firstly, you should not… Continue reading Feeling Safe: What Makes a Good Relationship (not just romantic)
I'm not just talking to white people here. Being an ally is also for other ethnic groups because I, as a Mixed Race (Black Caribbean and White British, Irish) cisgender woman will have no lived experience compared to say an Indian, Hindu man; or a Japanese lesbian; or a Native American Transgender woman etc. etc.… Continue reading Racial Education: Being Uncomfortable, Vulnerability and Allyship
Hey guys, welcome back to the Finding Clarity Series! Today's post is a deep one, an important one, but also one that I can provide a lot less specific advice about because our wounds and our need for healing are all different. Just know, firstly, that your wounds can heal if you stop poking them… Continue reading Finding Clarity: Shame, Wounds, Healing
In light of it being Valentine's Day tomorrow, I thought I would share the five most important things that every good relationship needs (in my opinion!). Whether you're in a relationship, looking, or happily single, here are my thoughts on what makes a relationship work long-term... Teamwork This is the ultimate, 100% most important… Continue reading Top 5 Things Every Good Relationship Needs
Here are my thoughts on why we fall victim to disconnection and poor communication and how we can do better to cultivate connection in this complex world of today... Empathy over sympathy Sympathy is "I feel sorry for you," which doesn't take away my pain, or share it, or take away my shame and… Continue reading My Thoughts On Communication and Connection
It can be tough to have different views about life and the world compared to someone else's. We can often fight for a long time when trying to find who's right and who's wrong. But there is only one definite truth: we all see the world differently... Click to play!