Life & Stuff

How to be an Ally: What True Long-lasting Allyship Means to Me

*For those who don't know, Allyship or being an "ally" isn't just for the Black Lives Matter movement! We all can and should be allies to other communities, ones we're not a part of. For example, myself as a cisgender female being an ally to the LGBTQ+ community. Or as a Mixed (Black and White)… Continue reading How to be an Ally: What True Long-lasting Allyship Means to Me

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“Wanting to help but scared to speak”

Hey, people. How you doing? I hope you’re okay! I've heard that some white people (and white-passing people) are feeling under pressure and are overwhelmed. I've heard that some are afraid to speak and get it wrong. Or some are speaking and they’re getting their heads bitten off! Let me just say, in case I… Continue reading “Wanting to help but scared to speak”

Life & Stuff · Mental Health

Racial Education: Being Uncomfortable, Vulnerability and Allyship

I'm not just talking to white people here. Being an ally is also for other ethnic groups because I, as a Mixed Race (Black Caribbean and White British, Irish) cisgender woman will have no lived experience compared to say an Indian, Hindu man; or a Japanese lesbian; or a Native American Transgender woman etc. etc.… Continue reading Racial Education: Being Uncomfortable, Vulnerability and Allyship

Life & Stuff · Mental Health · Podcast & Videos

You Are Not Selfish: Selfishness V. Self-Care (podcast)

Have you ever been called selfish by someone you care about, and then questioned if it was true? I have. Or at least, I've been made to feel selfish for choosing myself. And this isn't uncommon, which is why I also did a post about guilt not long ago. But I give you permission to… Continue reading You Are Not Selfish: Selfishness V. Self-Care (podcast)

Life & Stuff · Mental Health

Finding Clarity: Shame, Wounds, Healing

Hey guys, welcome back to the Finding Clarity Series! Today's post is a deep one, an important one, but also one that I can provide a lot less specific advice about because our wounds and our need for healing are all different. Just know, firstly, that your wounds can heal if you stop poking them… Continue reading Finding Clarity: Shame, Wounds, Healing

Life & Stuff · Mental Health

Finding Clarity: Setting Boundaries

Hey guys, welcome back to the Finding Clarity series! Today is a shorter post but a very hard topic to get right: boundaries! I've thought about this for a while and heard YouTubers talk about it and I thought "hey, I need those" but never knew how to do it. I haven't become an expert… Continue reading Finding Clarity: Setting Boundaries

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Top 5 Things Every Good Relationship Needs

In light of it being Valentine's Day tomorrow, I thought I would share the five most important things that every good relationship needs (in my opinion!). Whether you're in a relationship, looking, or happily single, here are my thoughts on what makes a relationship work long-term...   Teamwork This is the ultimate, 100% most important… Continue reading Top 5 Things Every Good Relationship Needs

Essays · Life & Stuff · Think About It

My Thoughts On Communication and Connection

Here are my thoughts on why we fall victim to disconnection and poor communication and how we can do better to cultivate connection in this complex world of today...   Empathy over sympathy Sympathy is "I feel sorry for you," which doesn't take away my pain, or share it, or take away my shame and… Continue reading My Thoughts On Communication and Connection