Life & Stuff · Think About It

Let’s Stop Calling It “Political Correctness”

The term "Political correctness" makes me think of politics. But it’s not really about politics, is it? It’s about humanity and love and inclusion. Allowing everyone to feel comfortable. To allow everyone to belong; truly belong in their own world and communities. In her book Braving the Wilderness, Brene Brown calls "political correctness" something else;… Continue reading Let’s Stop Calling It “Political Correctness”

Life & Stuff · Mental Health

Feeling Safe: What Makes a Good Relationship (not just romantic)

Aside from feeling physically safe, which we all should feel in relationships, I wanted to explore some other ways that we should feel safe with our closest connections. This is what a healthy relationship looks like between two people: they both should feel safe to... Safe to be your true self Firstly, you should not… Continue reading Feeling Safe: What Makes a Good Relationship (not just romantic)

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Free podcasts and videos that help with anti-racism (that I’ve listened to or watched)

Not everyone has the money for books or the time for lengthy reads, but we all can spare time to listen to podcasts and videos that are summing up a lot of what the books are saying. Nothing can REPLACE reading  a book, but so far I've seen authors and speakers share their views and black… Continue reading Free podcasts and videos that help with anti-racism (that I’ve listened to or watched)

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How to be an Ally: What True Long-lasting Allyship Means to Me

*For those who don't know, Allyship or being an "ally" isn't just for the Black Lives Matter movement! We all can and should be allies to other communities, ones we're not a part of. For example, myself as a cisgender female being an ally to the LGBTQ+ community. Or as a Mixed (Black and White)… Continue reading How to be an Ally: What True Long-lasting Allyship Means to Me

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“Wanting to help but scared to speak”

Hey, people. How you doing? I hope you’re okay! I've heard that some white people (and white-passing people) are feeling under pressure and are overwhelmed. I've heard that some are afraid to speak and get it wrong. Or some are speaking and they’re getting their heads bitten off! Let me just say, in case I… Continue reading “Wanting to help but scared to speak”

Life & Stuff · Mental Health

Racial Education: Being Uncomfortable, Vulnerability and Allyship

I'm not just talking to white people here. Being an ally is also for other ethnic groups because I, as a Mixed Race (Black Caribbean and White British, Irish) cisgender woman will have no lived experience compared to say an Indian, Hindu man; or a Japanese lesbian; or a Native American Transgender woman etc. etc.… Continue reading Racial Education: Being Uncomfortable, Vulnerability and Allyship

Life & Stuff · Mental Health · Podcast & Videos

You Are Not Selfish: Selfishness V. Self-Care (podcast)

Have you ever been called selfish by someone you care about, and then questioned if it was true? I have. Or at least, I've been made to feel selfish for choosing myself. And this isn't uncommon, which is why I also did a post about guilt not long ago. But I give you permission to… Continue reading You Are Not Selfish: Selfishness V. Self-Care (podcast)

Life & Stuff · Mental Health

Finding Clarity: Shame, Wounds, Healing

Hey guys, welcome back to the Finding Clarity Series! Today's post is a deep one, an important one, but also one that I can provide a lot less specific advice about because our wounds and our need for healing are all different. Just know, firstly, that your wounds can heal if you stop poking them… Continue reading Finding Clarity: Shame, Wounds, Healing

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Top 5 Things Every Good Relationship Needs

In light of it being Valentine's Day tomorrow, I thought I would share the five most important things that every good relationship needs (in my opinion!). Whether you're in a relationship, looking, or happily single, here are my thoughts on what makes a relationship work long-term...   Teamwork This is the ultimate, 100% most important… Continue reading Top 5 Things Every Good Relationship Needs