What is vulnerability?
Vulnerability, to me at least, is a state of openness. You are completely out in the open, subject to hurt, shame, rejection, or loss. To be vulnerable means putting yourself on display and saying, “take it or leave it.”
- The unknown
- Welcomed fear
Vulnerability is being in a state of uncertainty, nakedness, and truth. A space where you could lose something or be hurt. But when you step into that space anyway, you are harnessing your superpower…
Why vulnerability could be what you need and how it can be used as a superpower
Here’s how being vulnerable more often in your life could be exactly what you need to change your life for the better. This is how vulnerability, when used right, can be your greatest strength and superpower…
Change happens when you’re not afraid to be vulnerable
The fact of the matter is, many of us are actively against change. Change is scary. Change brings with it a lot of uncertainty. No one is comfortable with the unknown.
And this is why you need to learn how to harness the power of vulnerability. If you are someone who is comfortable with being vulnerable, then you are someone who can deal with change.
This is because you will be good at stepping out of your comfort zone and allowing the fear, newness, mistakes, and failure to take their course, while you keep calm and keep on forwards due to being comfortable with that vulnerable state that you’re in.
It’s sort of like a chrysalis. You must go through the uncomfortable, vulnerable state inside the cocoon as you grow and change. Then when that’s over, you will rise anew with beautiful wings. But the vulnerable state is a key part of the process.
Dreams and success comes from vulnerability
Again, people don’t like failure or setbacks or struggle of any kind. This is why many people stay average, while only the select few manifest abundant lives for themselves. But the truth is, failure and setbacks and struggle are a package deal on the road to success (higher forms of success like financial freedom or passive income or the harder to obtain professions etc).
If you can be comfortable in vulnerability, then you will be better equipped to deal with those failures and setbacks with resilience. You will be naturally inclined towards being open, trying again despite failure, and trying new things to reach your goals.
Highly successful people have these things in common:
- Dedication and passion
- And authenticity
And for me, these things come from those who are comfortable (or at least don’t run from) being vulnerable.
Strong relationships involve vulnerability
It takes vulnerability to be authentically you. To not wear a mask or pretend to be something you’re not. To never puff yourself up or shrink yourself down to fit in or impress. It takes vulnerability to be able to stay you when dating or forming new relationships in this world.
We should all want this for ourselves; to be nothing but our true selves. To be honest, open, emotionally available, and true to our core.
It takes real emotional intelligence to be able to be a great communicator, empathetic, open, and be able to form real connections with people. The superpower of vulnerability can help you to be all of those things. To step into the light while naked and say “this is me“. And then to encourage and welcome others who do the same.
Strong bonds are formed when two parties allow themselves to be vulnerable with one another; because that is real, authentic, honest, and true.
Truth and trust is found in vulnerability
Because when you are vulnerable, you can face tough life questions. You can accept who you are and what you want. You can see the truth of yourself and your life, be that bad or good. And you can trust yourself to make the right decisions and get you through the tough times because you aren’t afraid of the unknown, you’re not afraid of challenges, and you’re not afraid of being vulnerable and out in the open.
If you allow yourself to be vulnerable, you are in a position to learn a lot about yourself and accept that with openness and trust.
I think one of my best qualities is my ability to step into vulnerability willingly. With my partner, my family, my friends, online, in my books, all of it. I’m not afraid to speak hard truths. I’m not afraid of judgement, ridicule, or rejection. I mean yes, these things scare me and hurt me like everyone else, but I also know that shrinking myself, lying, or hiding is much worse in the long-run.
I am sometimes vulnerable and honest with people to a fault. But I always know that the true ones will love me and connect regardless. Now that’s power.
If you want to have real, strong, lasting relationships in your life, then you need to learn how to be vulnerable.
If you want to succeed in gaining a higher life for yourself, you need vulnerability because no road to success is easy or straight.
If you want to find your truth and cultivate a better relationship with yourself, well, vulnerability is where the gold is.
Allow yourself to be vulnerable more often. To be open, naked, weak, emotional, honest, and whole. Don’t hide or shrink or lie.
How can we be vulnerable and gain this superpower?
- Journal: I am my most honest self when writing in my journal, and I’ve learned a lot about myself doing so
- Speak the truth, no matter what
- Dare to look within for all the answers you seek are inside
- Dare to go after what you truly want, no matter what
Don’t shy away from the harder, more uncomfortable emotions and experiences in life, they are granting you the strength to be vulnerable and succeed!
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