I'm not just talking to white people here. Being an ally is also for other ethnic groups because I, as a Mixed Race (Black Caribbean and White British, Irish) cisgender woman will have no lived experience compared to say an Indian, Hindu man; or a Japanese lesbian; or a Native American Transgender woman etc. etc.… Continue reading Racial Education: Being Uncomfortable, Vulnerability and Allyship
Hey guys, welcome back to the Finding Clarity Series! Today's post is a deep one, an important one, but also one that I can provide a lot less specific advice about because our wounds and our need for healing are all different. Just know, firstly, that your wounds can heal if you stop poking them… Continue reading Finding Clarity: Shame, Wounds, Healing
There is a real power in unlearning life lessons. The wrong lessons we learned, the lies we told ourselves, and the things we held onto that were simply untrue. What do we do? We unlearn these lessons...
Take a look at your friends and family, who are they? Who are you with them? Are they right for you? Are you fitting in or truly belonging? We are a product of our environment which includes who we hang out with. Pick yours carefully... https://youtu.be/AriE8Q7ilTg Don't forget to subscribe to my… Continue reading Video: Do You Have The Right Tribe?
Growing up, I didn't see many girls who looked like me on the TV. They weren't in the books, on billboards, or in films, either. Thankfully, this is starting to change but it's still not where it needs to be. You see, if you're a child who's not white, it can be hard to grow… Continue reading Why Representation in Media Matters
What does it really take to be a strong person? Here's what it means to be strong...
*Part of the Identity Series* When I asked my grandparents who they are, they couldn't answer. When I asked them how they thought others would describe them, they suddenly could answer. When I asked my mom, she listed some great things about herself, but then she said other people think this and that about… Continue reading How Others See Us: Identity
*Part of the Identity Series* I believe that a lot of our personal struggles in adulthood come from our sense of Identity and Belonging. Why? Because we question who we are and what we're meant to do. These questions tie directly to our sense of Identity, but they also tie into the concept of Belonging...… Continue reading Belonging & Community in Adulthood
The reason I'm writing this post is because last week, I retook the Myers-Briggs Personality Test to see if I was still an I.N.F.J. (I am). I asked my boyfriend and my sister to do the same. I think there's changed. But what I found interesting was something my boyfriend said, "Is mine a good… Continue reading The Wrong Personality
*Part of the Identity Series* Intro Obviously, we know that our upbringing has a direct effect on who we are. In the Nurture versus Nature argument, I lean more towards Nurture. We are a product of our environment. I am kind because my mother showed me how to be kind. I am resilient because she… Continue reading How Family Affects Our Sense of Identity in Adulthood