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Why You’re Unhappy (podcast)

Today's podcast episode is about why you might be unhappy in life and in general (current awful climate of the world notwithstanding!). I will walk you through 6 ways we make ourselves unhappy, alongside a recognition of the dystopian nightmare we're living in right now and how I am sending so much love your way.… Continue reading Why You’re Unhappy (podcast)

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Black Beauty: a thought piece on being seen as less beautiful

Not black and beautiful. Not beautiful for a black person. Beautiful, end of sentence...Except in our society, that's not the case. That's what people say, if confronted, but it's not what we're shown day in, day out.And actions speak louder than words.  My prom photosWhen I was 16 and was going to Prom, my cousins… Continue reading Black Beauty: a thought piece on being seen as less beautiful

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15 Therapeutic and Meditative Activities for Calmness

Calm is something we all need to cultivate in our stressful adult lives. However, we're not limited to the obvious, more mainstream methods of therapeutic activity or meditative practices: yoga, meditation, journaling, reading, walking, etc. Here is a list of activities that are very calming because they are gentle or because they take keen concentration… Continue reading 15 Therapeutic and Meditative Activities for Calmness

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Emotional Exhaustion and Self-Compassion in Trying Times

Right now we are in hard times. 2020 feels like a dystopian novel that just won't end. It is hitting all of us and I wanted to take a moment to push for self-compassion and to warn you of emotional exhaustion and the very real dangers that come with not looking after yourself right now.… Continue reading Emotional Exhaustion and Self-Compassion in Trying Times

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Racial Education: Being Uncomfortable, Vulnerability and Allyship

I'm not just talking to white people here. Being an ally is also for other ethnic groups because I, as a Mixed Race (Black Caribbean and White British, Irish) cisgender woman will have no lived experience compared to say an Indian, Hindu man; or a Japanese lesbian; or a Native American Transgender woman etc. etc.… Continue reading Racial Education: Being Uncomfortable, Vulnerability and Allyship

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6 Everyday Ways to Feel Free

For a long time, I've sought freedom over happiness. Happiness is an emotion; emotions come and go. Instead, freedom can be captured at any moment. Freedom is something we can determine. I guess what I'm saying is, we decide if we're trapped or if we're free. Philosophy aside, here are some fun, everyday ways to… Continue reading 6 Everyday Ways to Feel Free

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Finding Clarity: Last Thoughts and Where to Go from Here

Download the Finding Clarity Workbook for a guide and questions related to this series of posts to find clarity in your life. So here we are at the end of the series and I wanted to share any last nuggets and ideas for you to take away with you. Thank you for making it this… Continue reading Finding Clarity: Last Thoughts and Where to Go from Here

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You Are Not Selfish: Selfishness V. Self-Care (podcast)

Have you ever been called selfish by someone you care about, and then questioned if it was true? I have. Or at least, I've been made to feel selfish for choosing myself. And this isn't uncommon, which is why I also did a post about guilt not long ago. But I give you permission to… Continue reading You Are Not Selfish: Selfishness V. Self-Care (podcast)

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Finding Clarity: Resources for Seeking Clarity

WARNING! This page is going to be full of so much information that it will be overwhelming. But, this isn't about doing everything; suddenly buying all the books, subscribing to all the channels, or listening to all the podcasts. Instead, keep this page handy for whenever you are looking for some information and don't know… Continue reading Finding Clarity: Resources for Seeking Clarity

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Finding Clarity: Shame, Wounds, Healing

Hey guys, welcome back to the Finding Clarity Series! Today's post is a deep one, an important one, but also one that I can provide a lot less specific advice about because our wounds and our need for healing are all different. Just know, firstly, that your wounds can heal if you stop poking them… Continue reading Finding Clarity: Shame, Wounds, Healing